A Bitter Pill To Swallow Could Make You Sick

by admin on August 12, 2011

Being a bitter person won’t make you a better person. In fact, new research shows it might make you a sicker person.

The study was done by researchers at Concordia University and one of them, Carsten Wrosch, concluded that “persistent bitterness may result in global feelings of anger and hostility that, when strong enough, could affect a person’s physical health. ”

Toxic emotions

Bitter is bad

Wrosch and his colleagues say that some emotions – such as regret – are directed inward and are about blaming yourself for errors you made. In contrast bitterness is directed outward, and is about blaming others. It may be that you blame someone because you didn’t get the job you wanted, or the promotion¬† you thought you deserved, or even just the respect you feel you merit at home.

Regardless of the cause that failure can prove toxic and if you hold on to it for a long time then it can slowly poison you in unexpected ways, not just mentally by leaving you fixated on what happened or even consumed by thoughts of revenge, but also physically such as by suppressing your immune function.

Avoid the pitfalls

The good news is that Wrosch and his chums say bitterness can be avoided.  People can start by trying to find other ways to achieve their original goals.

If that fails people can revise their goals and find something else to aim for or just gain a more realistic sense of what they can achieve, if they didn’t get the promotion they wanted maybe it’s time to look for a new job. If the marriage they are in is beyond saving then maybe it’s time to accept that and try to discover new love and passion.

And maybe the most powerful weapon that people can deploy in helping them move past these feelings of anger and resentment and bitterness is the simplest one. Forgiveness.

 

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