I Like It Like "That"

by DavalosMcCormack on February 23, 2010

Now that our amazing grand daughter Emma Danger is in our lives we are discovering new routines and making changes to re-visit old routines too!  She may be only 1 year but she is an opinionated, self-regulated, young lady who absolutely knows what she wants….and it’s “That”!

She loves the word “That” and she has found out that it can be used for almost anything.  She will point and say, “That” and if you give her any lip, like saying, “Do you want the banana?”  She will continue to point and say “That”  until you finally, select the wanted object.  This can be pretty challenging if she is pointing to a dinner table filled with salt shakers, silverware, plates of food, etc.  Yes, Emma has her routine and she is picking up our routines too.

Kevin and I have decided to make sure she knows the “routine” when she comes to our house.  For instance, we all sit down for breakfast when Emma visits.  Normally, Kevin and I eat while we are editing this blog, or listening to the radio, or getting dressed, but when Emma is here we sit down and eat together. It represents how important she is to us.

There have been lots of studies on the importance of sharing meals together. In fact, studies have found that having a regular dining experience with your family is so important that children who have infrequent dinners, (say less than 3 times a week), are  twice as likely to use tobacco or marijuana; and more than one and a half times likelier to use alcohol.   Sharing time at the dinner table, without cell phones,or text messages, game boys, or the TV honors the children by giving them undivided attention.  It makes them feel valued.

Think of it, just having a simple dinner  creates a safe place, a regular  schedule and a time for sharing food and conversation.  When my girls were little,  dinner was very important.  They would sit at the counter and do some homework while their Dad and I cooked.  It was a time where they could ask questions about the homework or just spend the time to work and chat.  We found out about what they were doing at school, who was new, what the teachers did, and what was going on with the other kids at school.  Then we sat down to eat,comfortable with each other, catching up without forcing it.

So turn off the cell phone and listen up, you might learn something and they will feel important.

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